I hope you feel good enough about yourself to believe that you're worth loving. Question: How long should I wait for the person I love to return to me?Īnswer: That depends on a lot of factors, but the most important one is YOU. Treat yourself well because other people may not have your best interests in mind. In the interim, you'll only be sorry if you put your life on hold for this older man with a "grass is greener" complex. He needs to undo that commitment before he makes a new commitment or tries to date you. Right now, however, he is legally and morally bound to another person. If it's love and he's not just "chasing skirt", then he'll do what it takes to be with you. Tell him firmly to STOP calling you until he is legally divorced (not separated). My recommendation is to stop talking to him altogether. He's free to marry you finally, but you know what? He DOESN'T! Or perhaps she decided to wait until some event like the kids going off to college. At least on some level, his wife knew about the affair all along and decided not to leave. ![]() He may offer nice gifts to keep you hanging on, or you may temporarily break up, but you keep coming back because of the hope that he'll really leave her.ģ) While you've wasted your youth and given up having children waiting for this older man, he's still married. You keep pressuring him about when you'll be together. There's always something conveniently keeping you apart, although he can always find time to have sex with you. (Note that he might even have a second girlfriend on the side.)Ģ) He continues to promise you that he'll leave his wife when the time is right, and you continue to make the mistake of trusting him. You're his hidden girlfriend he steals time with. His wife gets his name, his home, his holidays and vacation memories, his bed, and the dignity of being publicly recognized as his life partner. ![]() It becomes like a long-term dating relationship, only you're still living off sloppy leftovers from his marriage. ![]() Then the passion will wane a bit after a few years - yes, YEARS because such affairs are tough to get out of once you cross that moral boundary. Here's the way this will very likely go down if you don't listen to that voice:ġ) Against your better judgment, you'll enter into an adulterous sexual relationship that is very passionate at first. Should wait for him?Īnswer: You are right to listen to your inner voice that tells you to leave him the hell alone. I want to be with him, but I don't want him to get a divorce. I don't know why I'm putting my life on hold for him. He wants to leave his wife for me, and I told him that he can't do that to her, but I can't stop talking to him. Question: I fell in love with an older man who is married. Tie a Yellow Ribbon 'Round the Old Oak Tree
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